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The Good, The Bad and the Down Right Ugly of Social Media

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I was recently asked an interesting question:

What affect the internet and social media have had on the debate over pit bulls.

…. And to be honest, it’s a complex question that can’t be answered with a simple yes or no. Let’s rewind time before the wonderful world wide web became available to the average Joe.

Our source of news was the TV, the newspaper and magazine publications which didn’t offer up the opportunity to instantly debate, correct, comment or share as we do now. Articles could and would repeat misinformation always with the slanted and obviously hyped heading ready with the purpose of selling. One view, one sided and usually unchallenged.

In the old days…

Brian C. Anderson’s article written for City Journal in 1999 is a great example of just that. Headline screaming, “Scared of Pit Bulls? You Better Be!”, filled with the usual cry for a breed ban and paragraphs of just how horrible the dogs and their owners are.
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Who could forget the July 1987 cover on Sports Illustrated? The Pit Bull Friend and Killer” in bold letters, followed by the opening statement: ” America has a four legged problem called the American Pit bull terrier…”

Fast forward 20 years and it’s a whole new world. Of course, some of the media still runs the same misinformation, articles slanted with the purpose to garner clicks and subscribers ::::coughcough thetimesherald coughcouch::: that are filled with limited fact checking and nonsense, but unlike 20 years ago, the public can chime in as soon as the articles are published. Owners, veterinarians, trainers and experts can speak up and respond.

Building a Nationwide Community

The internet and social media has done wonders for the pit bull community. It creates places for millions of owners to talk, vent, ask questions, advocate, rescue, change laws, change minds and work cohesively to build a safer community for humans and their pets together.

Social Media has given non-profits like Stubby’s Heroes’ a platform to reach more people not just in their community but nationwide.
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(Stubby’s Heroes’)

Launching their “This is Your Neighbors Pet”, Stubby Heroes’ slays the misconception and unfair stigma placed on millions of innocent dogs and shattering the unfair stereotype of millions of dog owners.

Thanks to social media, it gives owners a voice in sharing the lives of their pets and families. From pages like Rafa, The Not so Baby Pibble and Juno Z dog to the rescued and rehabilitated Vicks dogs, like the amazing Ray the Vicktory Dog that shared his training and rehabilitation with the world. Social media has also exposed the fear mongering that PETA and other BSL fear mongering groups attempting to call for the destruction of these amazing dogs.
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(Ray the Vicktory Dog)

Thanks to the internet and social media, communities can pull together to organize anti BSL efforts while helping each other in sharing resources, tips and stories.

 

The Double Edged Sword

For as good as the internet and social media is for our dogs, it also opens the door for BSL advocate groups like Dogsbite.org, Daxton’s Friends and the Pit bull Propaganda Machine Reveled to spread their own message and create an online community.  It allows those intent on banning these dogs and isolating their owners a view into the lives of the people they have every intention of destroying.  From cyber stalking, threatening and even taking images of children to mock and ridicule on their hate pages,  the internet and social media has become just as valuable to them as it has their opposition.

It’s incredibly easy to point out all of the bad and place it justly on the shoulders of BSL advocates when it comes to damaging the image of the pit bulls and their owners, but it wouldn’t be accurate. As with any debate that stirs such emotion, extremists will always lift their ugly heads and extremists can be found on both sides of this argument. It became painfully obvious during the case of Mickey (the dog) and Kevin ( young boy from Phoenix) just how extremists from the pro pit bull advocacy was doing just as much damage as the BSL advocates.

It’s become obvious that the fight has been moving off the dogs and have become a human issue and the reason is a no brainer. Dogs have no clue about BSL. They have no clue that there are people bent on their destruction, nor do they always get to pick their owners. There are millions and millions of fantastic and amazing owners, yet many times, we hear about the small selective few who are absolute morons that should never have been allowed to take care of any living thing and have caused such a horrific tragedy that the news have plastered the story all over the internet.

Thanks to the internet, you can google anything. Not only can you find positive pit bull videos but you can find the worst videos ever known to man that include pit bulls. Unlike BSL advocates, I refuse to post them. Honestly, I refuse to even google them. There is no denying the brutality that these dogs can commit when placed in the wrong hands and sadly, the wrong hands can sometimes be from the people who had good intentions in the first place.

To Kill a Myth

Repeat after me… There is no such thing as a Nanny Dog. There is no such thing as a Nanny Dog. There is no such thing as a Nanny dog.

There is no such thing as a Nanny Dog.  We do not live in a Disney cartoon where our dogs wander around with a bonnet and have the ability to babysit our children. Are our dogs amazing? Yes. Do they “love” their family members? Of course.  Will they try to protect their family? Absolutely, but will your dog babysit or take care of your child all by themselves? Hell no.

It makes my eye cross when I read “Pit bulls were bread to be Nanny Dogs!” because it logically makes absolutely no sense to me and nor should it make any sense to any pit bull owner. Our dogs are powerful animals. The strength and stamina they have is amazing and yet, they can be gentle, lazy dogs but the key word is: they are just that… dogs. Animals. Carnivores. They don’t process things like humans, nor will they react the same way as humans and it’s obvious by certain videos circulating the internet, there are many humans who are not even capable of reading their dogs body language.

 

Parents who find this cute and funny….

None of that makes sense to me but if any of those dogs bite those children, the parents will stand around and wonder “But I don’t know what happpppennned!” I can’t believe I’m saying this, but it’s true: The Nanny dog myth kills and it needs to stop, with us. Our community needs to keep correcting it EVERY DAMN TIME WE HEAR IT. A great advocate said something that I think is essential because it is 100% true :

“The fact that these dogs are good family dogs has been twisted by our own community and is causing our dogs to fail, and for kids to get hurt.”

The greatest thing about the internet and social media when it comes do our dogs and our advocacy is that it gives all of us the chance to speak up and squash the misconceptions and myths that started a long time ago. The internet and social media is our tool and it can help us do amazing things. It can help us find homes for dogs, help our community with services, fund raise, share, laugh, make amazing friends across the nation. It gives us an opportunity to pull together and be the voice for our pets and our families. Just like any tool, it comes with great responsibility because for as good as it can do, it can just as much harm with the simplest of ease… by just pressing enter.

With Great Power comes Great Responsibility

  • Spiderman or Voltaire
  • (Your choice…)

Her Name was Becca.

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Her name was Becca.  She was 22 years old, a loving fiancé, an adoring mother to an 18-month old daughter, a close sister, a cousin and a daughter.  She was filled with so much life, filled with so much love and had the capability to do and be anything she wanted to do and at 22 years old, why wouldn’t you be filled with so much…life?

Becca was brutally killed December 3, 2015 after a devastating dog attack. As a mother, my heart breaks, not just for the young daughter she left behind but for Becca.  As a mother, one of my dreams in life is to live long enough to watch them grow into amazing women who will make a difference in the world, be it small or large and I am sure that Becca and I shared that dream.

I will be honest, I barely slept at all last night after writing a story about her tragic death. I kept looking at my 2 ½ year old who was continuously kicking me in the throat because she wanted to sleep like a toddler ninja that took up 68% of my bed and the urge to pick her up and cradle her was overwhelming. I know, deep down inside as a mother, that the last thoughts that Becca had as she laid on the cold hard ground dying was about her beautiful daughter Molly. I can only hope that those images in her fading mind where her daughters infectious laugh, those bright blue eyes and the smile that could make the heart of the Grinch grow two sizes bigger. I pray that as she took her last breath, she thought of the games of peek a boo and playing catch with a beach ball in the dining room and I can only hope that with her death, we all learn something that a tragedy like this can teach us. Compassion.
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This death shouldn’t be about a fight over Breed Specific Legislation, but like many controversial issues, it never is that simple and I think this tragedy shines a light on the ugly belief system that fuels the Pro- BSL Advocacy and shockingly,  Dogsbite.org Colleen Lynn sets the tone for this as she herself labels the grieving fiancé as a “super nutter” because he spoke out and refuse to try to destroy a whole breed of dogs because of the actions of a few. Dogsbite.org, a “public education website” dedicated to advocating for Breed Specific Legislation and the extermination of all pit bull, pit bull type dogs and a every growing list of breeds of dogs they deem to be dangers.  
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According to Colleen Lynn, Dogsbite.org champions the rights of victims through their research, education and advocacy, even going as far as stating: “Victims of serious and fatal dog maulings, families and friends, health and public safety officials and the concerned public need advocates too. We advocate for you.”  Yet their online behavior screams just the opposite, which seems to be selective at the best and the requirements are simple:

Join in their fight for the banning and extermination of pit bull/pit bull mixes or what they deem pit bulls.

This is the side of the BSL Advocacy, the self-proclaimed “victim’s advocacy” that the public needs to see. Their advocacy isn’t about making our community a safer place or allowing the grieving families to attempt to pick up the shattered pieces of their lives in a safe and protected atmosphere, it’s about keeping the victim’s family in this violent and vicious circle of continuous pain to break them down and submit to their cause, to break them down to such a weakened state that the victims’ families just can’t not find the strength the fight the onslaught of abuse that the “victim’s advocate” heap onto the family.

“Apparently when you have a family of pit bull breeders…. they will do/say anything to keep that business thriving. Even when a beautiful life has been stolen. Disgusting. The fiancé needs to be LOCKED away. That child needs to be protected!! I PRAY.”- Jennifer Martin Kim

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“This guy OWNS a Pit Bull?!?!?  His kid is next, it’s just a matter of time…” Joy Bailey

 


“And yes, you do destroy a whole breed because of a few bad seeds because there are safer breeds available. We do this with humans too. Every Nazi was rounded up and executed.”- James Hassinger

“Her grieving fiancé needs a lesson in grammar and spelling check.

Oh, and he probably should do a little scientific research before making claims that the attack has nothing to do with the breed”- Rebecca Tomaszewski

“He’s a piece of shit. Maybe he threw his lady over the fence…. doesn’t sound like a great relationship to me?  What a f****ing fiasco during the attack; no real action so the Pit Mix joins in the fun too”- Lesley Karen Luscombe

“She was probably escaping from this idiot’s violence. He’s probably happy the dogs finished off the job he started. And I wouldn’t be one bit surprised if he ran her or tossed her into that yard.” – Stacy Westover

“This twerp is the perfect size for an overhead swing and a head first slam into a garbage can, followed by the question, “Still feeling accomplished mother fucker?”- Jimmy Younger

“White trash, possibly abuser!!!” – Sandrine Sandy Georges

 

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I wish I could say “Becca is in a better place” and mean it. As a mother, the best place I could think of would be with my family and I know that is where she would want to be. Heaven on earth was walking the beach with Molly’s hand in hers. I grieve for Becca and I grieve for the light extinguished far too soon.

“It’s Crap”

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“It’s time to start treating pit bull owners as terrorists and attacking them with everything the law can bring.”- It’s Crap (December 2015)

Piece of advice? Put the pipe down and step away. What kind of idiot attempts to lump millions of innocent and responsible people in a group and slap a horrific label like “terrorist” on them and then proclaim that all pit bull owners should be aggressively attacked because some idiot doesn’t like their dog?

At the end of the day, this is what this fight is about. You have a small group of people who feel that they should have a say in your choice of a family pet. It doesn’t matter if you are responsible or if your dog has never hurt anyone or anything, a small group of people want to decide to go ahead and take your choice away from you.

“While I am certainly not an advocate of State adoption of children in arguably benign situations, I think this is an area of concern and should be addressed in any type of parental judgment. These parents have shown such blatant disregard for the well-being of their children that it clearly illustrates that they are unfit to have children in their homes.” It’s Crap (2015)

The irony is- dysfunctional and poor parental judgement is rampant among the BSL crowd. Not only do you have parents convicted of drug dealing letting their drug customers and dealers watch their children, you have parents committing ARSON for insurance money, let’s not forget the mother & son if the year… Who exactly has the blatant disregard for the well being of their children?  The family that teaches responsible dog ownership with attentive parenting or…… the BSL Advocate who made poor decisions that impacted the well being of their child?

I agree that it needs to be addressed! I have no idea why a grown woman walked scott free after her being responsible for the death of a child under care. I have no clue on how the parents of that dead child are supporting her. I have no clue how a mother lets her older son run off and hide after her son’s dogs kill her son. I have no clue how that same mother let that child roam around at night ALONE knowing her older son is a back yard breeder with multiple dogs in a pen… and I have no clue on why BSL Advocates attempt to put those negligent and examples of poor parenting on a pedestal.

If past behavior is any indication of future behavior- BSL Advocates are a danger to children. The fact they lack the ability to have personal responsibility and accountability shows that if they repeat the same negligent behavior they will just attempt to pass the blame once again.

Vultures

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“Oneida County, NY – A family pit bull attacked and killed an 11-month old boy in the town of Marshall last night, according to the Oneida County Sheriff’s Office. The dog, a 2-year old pit bull named “Diesel,” was with the baby and three other children in the home when the family pit bull suddenly attacked the boy. Responding deputies found 32-year old Lisa Cittadino trying to give the child first aid. Cittadino said she struggled to pull the family pet off the baby then called 911.”

It seems as if the selective victim advocacy is launching their own personal attacks against this grieving family. Why? All because the family claims the attacking dog was not a pit bull.

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(Lisa Marie Cittadino, mother of the victim.)

This isn’t the first time Borchardt and Lynn have turned their backs on victims that refuse to jump on their band wagon of hate and been perfectly fine with mocking the grieving family.

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According to Pame, close friend with Borchardt- the grieving parents of the victim deserve having their 11 month old baby killed. Don’t forget, Pame is a victims advocate.

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According to the disgraced ex columnist Lori, the grieving mother seems to be a nutter herself… This is the same woman who started a pit bull victims advocacy campaign.
 

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“So sorry for your loss, but…..” That phrase alone should sound awfully familiar to certain BSL advocates… In fact, I’m pretty sure Borchardt has written a few blogs offended that anyone would dare tell him that.
 

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Right, because it’s normal for a victims advocacy group to just run out of sympathy for victims. Let’s get real, people like Borchardt are not fighting for victims. It isn’t about supporting the victims emotionally, assisting financially or assisting with supportive services to help the victims or victims family. Come to think of it, I don’t think Daxton’s Friends, Pit bull victims advocacy or Dogsbite.org offers any supportive services whatsoever, well… other than access to Facebook groups filled with mentally unstable people.

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I honestly hope the family never ever reads these screen shots. I hope that they heal and get the emotional support they need to somehow heal from this horrible tragedy.

Own It

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Let me guess, Borchardt, founder of Daxton’s Friends and self proclaimed “victims advocate” will somehow cry that this comment that he typed was somehow misconstrued. That somehow, he is just misunderstood. He really doesn’t mean that individuals with down syndrome are “fugly” …he just means pit bull puppies are fugly because they look like they have down syndrome.

Now, I know this post will ruffle some undies over in the land of BSL advocates and you know what? I’m glad! Why? Because they spew some of the worst, racist, sexist, unethical, derogatory, prejudice things ever known to man…. in private with the hopes that no one will ever be able to see their disgusting behavior but guess what? People will see it and they will know what disgusting POS you really are.

You’re Welcome.

Daxton’s Friends- A Public Safety Advocacy Gone Horribly Wrong

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You know how a victims advocacy/public safety group has gone down hill? When they start wishing for more dog bite victims.

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This family is the newest target of the anti-pit group created by Daxton’s Friends founder Jeff Borchardt. According to Lisa Padgett, card carrying Daxton Friends supporter and Dogsbite.org member, this image of a mother, her two children and their dogs is “scary”. Right- I mean, I know toddlers can be scary at times but come on..

You know what’s scary? How these hags sit around and rub their greedy little hands together wishing and praying for a dog attack.

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Joanna McGinn, staunch supporter and close friend of Jeff Borchardt and Daxton’s Friends can only hope that the mother to these two young children will be brutally attacked and killed while the children are in school. Considering this is in the group created and administrated by Jeff Borchardt- he is fully aware of this and even condones this train of thought.

Failed as a DJ, failed as a generally decent human, failed as a victims advocate and absolutely failed as a public safety advocate- maybe he should focus on being a better father this time around and stop advocating for violence, Lord knows we don’t want him failing at fatherhood again..right?